Martin Crowe, world-famous New Zealand cricketer, came to me as a client when he was diagnosed with lymphoma. His wife, Lorraine Downes, has graciously allowed me to share an excerpt from her memoir Life, Loss, Love.
“One of the first things Marty did after his diagnosis was begin counselling sessions with Diana Newcomb, a cancer survivor. Diana had written a book called Cancer: Don’t Buy Into Its Terror Tactics. She believed that her cancer had been brought on by her emotions, and when Marty read that, it resonated with him instantly.
His sessions with Diana unleashed a whole barrage of deep-seated emotions he’d been hanging on to. I would wake up some nights to hear the sound of sobbing coming from downstairs, and I’d find Marty lying on the floor, the emotion pouring out of him…
Diana was a godsend. She was able to connect with Marty and guide him – sometimes gently, sometimes not so gently – so that he could understand the destructive thinking that had become a habit after so many years of practice. She showed him his ego and how it could make him fearful. She also showed him how to shut down that ego when the fearful thoughts came, and to say to the constant questioning thoughts in his head, ‘I don’t care.’
Doing this was a huge challenge for Marty – his negative thinking had dominated his psyche for thirty years. But he now believed these thought patterns had caused his cancer and accepted that he needed to change. Diana taught Marty about meditating, which was the ideal tool for him as it required him to still his mind. It was a tool he could turn to when the suffering became too much.
These counselling sessions helped him to find inner peace.”